Modern Alternatives to the Unity Candle

Wedding Day Ceremony Ideas

Alternatives to the Unity Candle for Your Portland Wedding

If you want to break from tradition and create a moment that's more “you,” here are some fun and meaningful unity ceremony alternatives to consider:

1. Unity Glass Art

Turn your ceremony into a piece of lasting art. With companies like Live Laugh Love Art, you and your partner choose from more than 20 colors of glistening glass crystals and pour them together during the ceremony. Afterward, you send the crystals in to be transformed by a glassblowing artist into a custom piece — a vase, sculpture, ornament, or wall art. If you're local, you can even witness the creation in person!

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2. Sand Pouring Ceremony

Much like the unity candle, but flame-free and outdoor-friendly. You each pour different colored sand into a shared vessel, symbolizing your unique lives blending together. Once combined, the grains are inseparable — just like you.

This couple also choose to include an extra color of sand for the bride's son to pour. I thought this was a beautiful symbol of their family coming together and a great way to involve him in the wedding ceremony.

3. Cocktail Mixing Ceremony

Perfect for couples who love to host or have a signature drink. During your ceremony, mix a cocktail, perhaps one ingredient each, and toast your new life together. You could even serve the same drink to guests later at the reception. Not a cocktail kind of couple? Drinking or blending wine, or taking a shot as well from your favorite special bottle, are great options as well.

4. Nintendo Switch Unity (Yes, really!)

For the gamer couple: one couple slid their Joy-Con controllers into a shared Nintendo Switch console during their ceremony. It was sweet, symbolic, and uniquely them. The perfect metaphor: teamwork, shared adventures, and the occasional boss battle.

5. Handfasting

An ancient Celtic ritual where your hands are literally tied together with ribbon or rope, representing your union.

6. Volcano Eruption for Science-Lovers

Have a thing for science or just want something unexpected? Mix your “ingredients” together to trigger a safe (and symbolic!) mini volcano eruption. This could be both a meaningful and entertaining moment — think colorful, foamy baking soda reaction.

More Creative Ideas to Explore

• Tree Planting – Add soil from two different locations to a shared potted tree. Watch it grow with your marriage.

• Love Letter Box – Each of you writes a letter to the other, to be read on your anniversary or a rainy day. Seal it in a box with a bottle of your favorite wine.

• Puzzle Ceremony – Fit the final piece into a custom puzzle together — especially fun if it has a photo or message on it. What a great use for your favorite engagement session photo!

• Tying the Knot - Using two different colored ribbons, rope, or twin, braid them together in the center so they create a tied knot, it often looks like a Celtic knot.

• Unity Paint Canvas – Pour or brush your chosen paint colors onto a canvas during the ceremony to create abstract art together.

Your Ceremony, Your Story

At the end of the day, your ceremony should reflect who you are as a couple. Whether you’re traditional, modern, playful, or sentimental, there’s a unity moment out there for you. Make it personal. Make it yours.

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